Sub in the City

Sub in the City

Sarah Butcher | BDSM Coach

Empowering you to own your kink

BDSM Coach & Kink Educator empowering curious kinksters to consciously explore what BDSM means to them.

As a BDSM Coach, Kink Educator and proudly collared submissive with over a decade of experience on the BDSM scene, I’m on a mission to bring BDSM into the 21st Century and empower curious kinksters like yourself to consciously explore what BDSM means to you. 

Through my workshops, talks and 1-1 coaching sessions, I provide a safe space for you to dive deep into your kinks to gain clarity and confidence in your desires.

About Sarah

Sarah Butcher is a sex-positive coach and BDSM & Kink educator, with over 10 years’ personal experience in BDSM and kink. Sarah shares her wealth of knowledge through her online content, videos and workshops both on and offline on variety of BDSM and kink topics.

Whether you’re looking to explore spanking, submission or you just want to learn what BDSM is all about, Sub in the City is a hub of kinky knowledge that is friendly, honest, and approachable.

Sarah’s goal is to empower others to explore their sexuality through 1-1 couples and individual kink coaching sessions, providing a safe and welcoming space for you to gain a deeper understanding of BDSM practices so that you can introduce them into your sex life with confidence.

Book a Session

Private Coaching | Individuals | Couples 

Events & Workshops

I host a number of educational workshops and events on the topic of BDSM and kink both online and in-person. If you would like to book me for your event, or to book a private workshop, please email me at sarah.subinthecity@gmail.com.

My Blog

5 ways to play with a masochist

5 ways to play with a Masochist

Have you ever wondered why pain hurts so good? A masochist is defined as someone who derives pleasure, often sexual …

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3 signs you've hit a plateau on your kink journey

5 signs you’ve hit a plateau on your kink journey

There comes a time in any journey where we feel like we’ve slowed down, or that we’re stuck altogether, and …

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What type of Dominant style suits you best?

What Dominant style suits you best?

When it comes to BDSM, one of the biggest misconceptions is that it’s all about pain, humiliation and degradation. But …

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My Channel

What do people say?

"The six weeks to own your kink course was everything I expected and more! From the informative lessons and kinky homework, to my interactions with Sarah and my classmates, I finished the course with a more open mind and a better understanding of BDSM. The confidence I gained is immeasurable"

- Monica G, Texas
"Sarah is the best BDSM coach around! I feel so confident and able to proceed being a Domme thanks to her. 10/10 reach out to her if you're looking for guidance"

- Daisy S, Boston
"BDSM 101 was a fun and interesting experience, and we’ve

already started applying some of the tricks together at home!"

- BDSM 101 attendees