Sub in the City




Sub in the City

Sarah Butcher | Integrative Kink Therapist, Coach & Educator

Supporting you to discover your desires, integrate your shadows, and live in your truth through the exploration of kink

Integrative Kink and BDSM Therapist, Coach & Educator, empowering you to consciously explore what BDSM means to you.

Meet Sarah, Dip, MBACP

Hi, I’m Sarah! I’m an Integrative Kink Therapist, Coach and Educator. I work with individuals and couples to support them on their journey of kinky discovery and sexual exploration. 

As a proudly collared submissive with over 12 years of personal experience in the BDSM lifestyle, and as a Humanistic Integrative Therapist with specialist training in Sex and Relationships, I’m on a mission to bring BDSM into the 21st Century and empower curious kinksters like yourself to consciously explore your desires with confidence. 

Working with kink in therapy can be extremely powerful, as it allows us to dive deep into our shadows, making it easier to connect with the parts of us that may need the most love and attention. 

As well as working directly with your current BDSM lifestyle to improve practical skills, communication and education, I can support you with anything else that comes up through working with kink and sexuality including limiting beliefs, inner child healing, trauma, anxiety, heartbreak, grief and much more. 

Through therapy, coaching, workshops and events, I provide a safe space for you to dive deep into your desires, integrate your shadows, and live a kinky life that feels authentic to you! 

Book a Session

Private Coaching | Individuals | Couples 

Subscribe to the Newsletter


Sign up to Sub in the City’s weekly newsletter and get two FREE resources!

KINK NEGOTATION SHEET: Reflect on what you’d like to experience during your kink exploration.

LIMITS & BOUNDARIES CHECKLIST: Use the Yes, No, Maybe list to understand more about your sexual desires and what you do and don’t want to try.

Events & Workshops

I host a number of educational workshops and events, both online and in-person. If you would like to book me for your event, or to book a private workshop, please email me at sarah.subinthecity@gmail.com.

What do people say?

"The six weeks to own your kink course was everything I expected and more! From the informative lessons and kinky homework, to my interactions with Sarah and my classmates, I finished the course with a more open mind and a better understanding of BDSM. The confidence I gained is immeasurable"

- Monica G, Texas
"Sarah is the best BDSM coach around! I feel so confident and able to proceed being a Domme thanks to her. 10/10 reach out to her if you're looking for guidance"

- Daisy S, Boston
"BDSM 101 was a fun and interesting experience, and we’ve

already started applying some of the tricks together at home!"

- BDSM 101 attendees