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The best vibrators for solo sex

Good vibes, good life: the best vibrators for solo sex

Masturbation is different for everyone. For some of us, we can’t get enough of it and have no issue talking about it either. For others, it’s extremely taboo. I had a friend come to me for advice recently, asking about what vibrators I’d recommend, and she admitted she’d never, you know, touched herself. So I’m here to share with you my advice on the best vibrators for solo sex and beyond.

This shocked me, considering I remember discovering how to please myself from quite an early age. I just assumed masturbation was a priority in everyone’s lives. It certainly should be, anyway. How will you ever be able to communicate to your partner what works for you if you have no idea yourself?

So it got me thinking that there are millions of women out there relying on their partner to know how to make them come, and being disappointed when they don’t quite get it right. And even more women out there currently single and waiting for the one to come and rock their world, who still aren’t taking the time to give themselves the pleasure they deserve. This stops now.

Men are brought up to believe masturbation is a normal part of their everyday life, but for women it’s never really talked about. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, masturbation is incredibly good for your sex life. Apart from the fact that orgasms feel great, they also release a number of chemicals and hormones that have an array of positive benefits. The sex hormones released when you masturbate actually stimulate your sex drive making you want even more sex. And practice makes perfect, so the more you masturbate, the better the sex with your partner is likely to be.

If you’ve never done it before (believe it or not, 20% of women have never masturbated in their life), then trying out a vibrator is a fun way to explore your own desires. Since most women are more likely to come from clitoral stimulation than penetration, using a vibe is a great option both for solo and couple sex. I’ve rounded up my pick of the bunch with brands offering beginner vibes to those more advanced.

The Bullet: Best vibrators for beginners

It can be a bit of a minefield walking into a sex shop and seeing the massive array of vibrators and dildos hanging on the walls, some of which look like they could rearrange your internal organs. If that’s your thing, then great, but this can be intimidating for a lot of women (and men!), so if you’re wanting to start off slow, then I highly recommend a small and compact vibrator known as the bullet. As the name would suggest they are smooth, long and pointy at the end like a bullet, and with a number of different speed settings, I can tell you that this little vibrator is far more powerful than it may look. They’re super quiet, discreet, and small enough to fit in your handbag. You can get them at any major sex store including Ann Summers, Bondara and Love Honey. Thank me later, girls.

The Wand: Best vibrators for explosive orgasms  

If you don’t have a wand in your toy box, let me tell you, you are missing out! My wand is possibly one of the best vibrators I own, and it has given me some of the best orgasms ever. There is a range of wands on the market, the main one being the Hitachi wand which I’ll admit, is incredibly intimidating if you’ve not used one before. You can get mains-powered wands for unlimited pleasure, or you can opt for a smaller, battery-powered or USB rechargeable wand for convenience. My wand is from Ann Summers, it’s medium-sized and supppper powerful. This type of vibe is great for solo play and for couples. A smaller wand will fit nicely on your clit during intercourse, whereas a bigger one is good for those who want to experiment with edging and teasing.

Pebble Massager: Best vibrators for those on a budget

The pebble is a good step up from the bullet, it’s still cute and convenient, but it’s got the ideal shape to sit on your clit during intercourse. The pointed tip also works wonders for targeting certain areas. The silicone pebble massager from Ann Summers is super quiet and it comes in a beautiful rose gold. It also comes with a silicone sleeve which can make the vibrations a little gentler so you can explore all six settings.

We-Vibe: Best vibrators for couples

The We-Vibe is a revolutionary couples sex toy that can be used with a remote control, from anywhere, anytime. So if you’re in a long-distance relationship or you’re away from your partner for a while, We-Vibe has some of the best vibrators made for couples. It connects to an app called We-Connect, and allows you to control the speed settings on any of the We-Vibe products. Their latest product, called the We Sync, is a vibrator specifically designed for intercourse, and it can be worn during sex to reach the G spot. They also have a range of other toys including a vibrating ring and butt plug, so you’re spoilt for choice. For more tips on ways to play long-distance, check out my blog on long-distance BDSM.

Vibrating Love Egg: Best vibrators for fun on date night

If the We-Vibe is a little out of your price range, then a Love Egg is the next best thing. Again, with a remote control, the vibrating egg is great fun for couples. This toy is one which can be inserted inside you and then worn as you please. If you’re feeling brave, this is a fun one to wear out on date night, while your partner has the remote to tease you all evening. Bondara has a wide range of vibrating eggs at different price points, so you can find the one that’s right for you.

Those are my top choices when it comes to the best vibrators for solo and couple sex. Try them and let me know how you get on. Which one is your favourite? For regular content follow @subinthecity on Instagram and YouTube. 

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