A 20-Hour, 12 week, 1-1 Mentorship program
Application only
Do you desire to command presence with your partner(s) in a way that makes you both feel confident and sexy?
Do you want to be able to hold space for your submissive to drop into surrender with ease?
Are you wanting to understand your own Dominant style and express it in a way that feels genuinely authentic, rather than a performance?
Being a good Dom/me requires both practical skill and emotional awareness, and this 3 month mentorship will take you on a journey of exploring both the energetics and somatics of power exchange in this hybrid course that offers what no other kink curriculum does.
In our 12 weeks together, we’ll be combining online mastercalsses, in-person playshops and demonstrations, and 1:1 coaching that will not just get you thinking about and understanding your inner Dom/me desires, but actually embodying your inner Dom/me through practical skills work.
You may be wanting to develop your experience as a Dom/me but currently don’t have a partner to explore with, or you have a partner, but you’re nervous to try new things in case you get it wrong.
This is where the Sub in the City mentorship provides something that most other courses don’t – real life practice with professionals!
This exclusive container will be led by Integrative Kink Therapist, Coach & Educator, Sarah Salazar, and Pro Dom and Educator Master Carlos, a real-life Dom/sub duo who live and breathe Power Exchange on a daily basis, both in personal and professional life.
You’ll be supported across 3 months with both online coaching and face to face workshops, diving into the different elements of Dominance to support you in discovering your true Dominant self.
We’ll also have our dedicated pro-subs on-hand for you to work with in order to build the skills and confidence you need to embody your authentic dominance with ease.
And by the end of the 3 months, you will have experienced three live hands-on scenes with a real sub, where you can showcase and practice your skills, so you’re ready to step into your Dominant energy in your own personal or professional relationships.
The mentorship program is a 3 month container and requires three in-person visits to the Sub in the City Studio in Bournemouth – one per month.
The rest of the coaching and classes are all online. You’ll also be invited to celebrate completing your mentorship along with a plus 1 to one of our Dungeon Parties.
What we'll cover during the mentorship
Session One: Online – Dominant Discovery Masterclass
Your mentorship will start with an online masterclass in Dominant foundations. We’ll cover everything from the Dominant Archetypes and skills and qualities of an authentic Dom/me, through to common challenges, misconceptions and myths to support your understanding of what it means to be Dominant and guide you towards a style that resonates with you.
Session two: Online – Your 60-Minute Personalised Coaching Call
In the second week you’ll have a private 60 minute call to understand where you’re at on your kink journey, what challenges feel most present and discuss your intentions and what you’d like to get from the mentorship.
This is an opportunity to reflect on your desires and interests so we can tailor your experience as much as possible throughout the mentorship, answer any initial questions you may have, and set you up for success.
Session Three: Online – Understanding the submissive experience
In week three we will dive into understanding the submissive experience, the different submissive archetypes, why people choose to submit, and how as a Dom/me you can support that journey and in turn how they can support yours.
Session Four: In Person – Half Day Dominant Skills Masterclass
In your first face-to-face session, we will start to develop our practical skills with a half day in-person masterclass.
Impact Play
Sensation Play
Wax Play
Bondage & sensory Play
Body handling
Dungeon equipment and furniture
Verbal Domination
This will also be an opportunity to meet for the first time the pro-sub you will be working with and start your exploration with them guided by Sarah and Master Carlos.
Session Five: Online – Aftercare Safety and Understanding the Somatic Experience of kink
In week five we’ll explore aftercare rituals and gain a deeper understanding of what happens to our body when we engage in kink and power exchange in order to create safety and containment for both yourself and your submissive partner(s).
Session Six: Online – Scene Building & D/s Dynamics Masterclass + plan your own scene
In Week six, we will explore building a dynamic that suits you. We’ll cover different styles of dynamic, what being in a dynamic typically looks like and what structures you can use to co-create a unique dynamic with your submissive partner(s).
We’ll also cover the art and flow of scene building from start to finish in detail, so you can prepare to confidently navigate and lead a scene from your Dominant energy in a way that suits your unique style.
This week you’ll also start to plan your own scene that you’d like to experience and get feedback and guidance from the Sub in the City team.
Session Seven: Online – Plan your Scene with Sarah, Master Carlos & your Pro Sub
In this online scene planning session we will help you plan out, negotiate and discuss the scene you’d like to explore with your Pro Sub in the next face to face session. This will allow you to practice your communication and negotiation skills prior to entering a scene.
Session Eight: In-person – Unleash your inner Dom/me – Scene Building Guided Practice
In this face to face session, you’ll move from simply understanding your inner Dom/me, to fully embodying your Dominant energy.
In this session, you’ll navigate a scene with your pro-sub, fully guided and supported by Master Carlos and Sarah. This is your opportunity to practice navigating a dynamic and a scene with a sub from start to finish – practice communication, refine your skills, negotiate the finer details and practice aftercare in real time.
Session Nine: Online – Debrief and catch up call
This online call is to catch up and debrief after your in person session, to check in and reflect on how it went, how you felt, what you need and how to build on what’s next moving forwards.
Week 10: Integration week – break for reflection
Session Eleven: In-person – Unleash your inner Dom/me – Final Scene
You’ll be invited back for more hands-on experience as you enter into your final scene with your submissive. This time, without the intervention of Sarah and Master Carlos, you’ll be navigating the session solo, really putting your skills to the test as you fully embody everything you’ve learnt on the mentorship. But don’t worry, as Sarah and Master Carlos will be present should you really need anything during the session.
Session Twelve – Online follow up coaching call
At the end of the mentorship you’ll also get one final coaching call to reflect on your journey and ask any final questions and get support to set you up for success moving forwards.
BONUS – 2 free tickets to a Dungeon Party
You’ll also be invited to attend one of our upcoming Dungeon Parties with a +1 to celebrate the end of your mentorship and have an opportunity for further exploration on the night.
This 12 week journey is for you if...
Are at the beginning of your Dom/me journey and serious about exploring your desires
Have dabbled in kink/bdsm but want to refine your skills & knowledge
Feel like you know dominance is your thing but you struggle with confidence and feel like every time your try to step into your dominant energy it feels cringey
You are in a relationship and want to learn how to lead your partner confidently
Do not have a partner but feel strongly that dominance is your thing and you want to learn and prepare to be the best dom/me you can for future connections
You’re open-minded, non-judgemental and understand that dominance comes in all flavours beyond the stereotypes we see in the media
You understand that conscious kink exploration is not just about sex, and you’re looking to understand yourself, your desires and those of your partner(s) on a greater level
You’re open to working mindfully, reflectively and willing to share and participate in group discussions at your comfort level to get the most from your learning
Are open to guidance and feedback
Comfortable working with a female submissive
Why enrol in this mentorship?
Many people assume kink is all about whips and chains, but it’s so much more than that.
Kink is about connecting to your authentic desires, embracing vulnerability, and surrendering (yes, even as the Dom/me) to the bliss of allowing your desires to be fully seen – without judgment.
Through conscious exploration of kink, you’ll:
Gain deeper self-awareness
Build confidence and liberate yourself
Learn skills and safe techniques for play
Set yourself up for successful connections, relationships and dynamics
Meet your mentors...
Sarah & Master Carlos from Sub in the City
Sarah is the founder of Sub in the City, an Integrative Kink Therapist, Coach & Educator with over 15 years of experience within the BDSM Scene. Master Carlos is a Professional Dominant and Conscious Kink Facilitator, bringing extensive lived experience and a grounded, authentic approach to Dominance and power exchange.
Together, they combine therapeutic understanding, practical expertise and lived experience as a real-life 24/7 D/s couple to offer a holistic and embodied approach to kink, relationships and power exchange.
Their mission is to bring BDSM into the 21st Century—moving beyond stereotypes, shame and the performance of prescribed roles, and instead helping people develop a deeper understanding of their desires, explore power and surrender consciously, and create dynamics that are authentic, healthy and fulfilling.
Through Sub in the City, Sarah and Master Carlos work internationally with individuals and couples at every stage of their journey. Their work spans private coaching and therapeutic support, educational workshops and immersive retreats, helping people move from curiosity and uncertainty towards greater confidence, self-awareness and embodied expression.
Where?
All online masterclasses and coaching sessions are conducted online on Zoom. Please ensure you have a private, quiet space to join from a laptop or desktop with a functioning camera.
In-person sessions and workshops take place in Bournemouth, Dorset at the fully equipped Sub in the City Studio.
Sessions will be scheduled according to your availability. The mentorship may be adjusted to suit your pace of learning depending on availability and consideration of each individual.
The final two in-person sessions may be grouped together across a weekend if this is more practical for you (subject to assessment of proficiency and suitability at that time).
Investment
£3,500
Payment plans available