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5 ways to play with a masochist

5 ways to play with a Masochist

Have you ever wondered why pain hurts so good? A masochist is defined as someone who derives pleasure, often sexual …

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3 signs you've hit a plateau on your kink journey

5 signs you’ve hit a plateau on your kink journey

There comes a time in any journey where we feel like we’ve slowed down, or that we’re stuck altogether, and …

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What type of Dominant style suits you best?

What Dominant style suits you best?

When it comes to BDSM, one of the biggest misconceptions is that it’s all about pain, humiliation and degradation. But …

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The other D in BDSM

The other ‘D’ in BDSM: Introducing Discipline and Rules to your D/s dynamic

Discipline and rules are a common practice for those in a Dominant/submissive dynamic, but not everyone enjoys the discipline aspect …

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BDSM & Altered States: What is dissociation and how to stay grounded during play

BDSM & altered states: what is dissociation and how to stay grounded

What is dissociation in BDSM? Some believe it’s the same as subspace or topspace, some believe it’s completely different. In …

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BDSM punishments: tips, tricks and ideas for punishing your sub

BDSM Punishments: Tips, tricks and ideas for punishing your sub

BDSM Punishments are an important part of a Dom/sub dynamic, they are an effective way to whip your submissive into …

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An introduction to anal play

An introduction to anal play

Butt stuff – you either love it or fear it greatly until you try it. One of the most common …

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BDSM debunked: 5 misconceptions about BDSM relationships

BDSM Debunked: 5 misconceptions about BDSM relationships

Thought BDSM was all about whips and chains, rough sex, and hidden trauma? Think again. On behalf of all the …

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consensual non consent

Consensual non-consent: What is ‘rape play’ and how to do it safely

Have you ever had a fantasy about sex with a stranger? How about sex you didn’t consent to? Well, you’re …

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Bondage for beginners

Bondage for beginners: An introduction to physical and psychological bondage play

Bondage is one of the most common forms of power play and can be used as part of a BDSM …

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3 reasons to introduce bdsm

3 Reasons to introduce BDSM into your relationship

BDSM often gets misunderstood as something extreme that should be reserved for the dark corners of the internet, or rich …

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Imposter syndrome and kink shaming in BDSM

Imposter Syndrome and kink-shaming in BDSM

In a world dominated by social media, we have grown ever-so hard on ourselves, constantly comparing our journeys and achievements …

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Edging and orgasm control

Edging and orgasm control: How to maximise pleasure through deferred gratification

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The best vibrators for solo sex

Good vibes, good life: the best vibrators for solo sex

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A guide to aftercare

A guide to aftercare

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The art of taking sexy selfies

The art of taking sexy selfies

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Online dating when you're kinky

Online dating when you’re kinky

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Long-distance BDSM: tips for keeping the kink alive

Long-distance BDSM: tips for keeping the kink alive

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Does being submissive make me a bad feminist?

Does being a submissive make you a bad feminist?

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What is subspace and how do I get there?

What is subspace and how do I get there?

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resourceful impact play

Resourceful impact play

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BDSM 101: A beginner's guide

BDSM 101: A beginners guide

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