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The best and worst of Kinky TV

Rated & Slated: BDSM Movies & Shows A round up of some of the best and worst kinky TV When it comes to representations of …

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What is CBT

What is CBT?

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What’s your kinky love language?

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What is Service Submission?

Top tips for becoming a great service submissive Service submissive is a type of role associated with Dom/Sub dynamics, which focuses on the Submissive’s dedication …

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How to vet a submissive

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What is Cuckholding?

The term ‘cuckolding’ has become a top adult hit on searches recently (with the UK and Netherlands topping the list) so this week I look …

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Chastity

A Guide to Chastity

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primal play

What is Primal Play?

Primal Play merges the boundaries between the human and the animal world, in this guide, I talk you through this fantasy world where the participants …

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Foot Fetish

Foot Fetish

A foot fetish, also known as podophilia, is a sexual attraction or interest in feet. People with a foot fetish derive sexual pleasure or arousal …

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A Guide to FemDom

A Guide to FemDom

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The Best Bondage Rope for Beginners

Rope play, also known as rope bondage or Shibari, is a consensual BDSM activity involving ropes to restrain, bind, or suspend a person for erotic …

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A Guide to Pet Play

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BDSM collars

BDSM Collars: How, when and why to use a collar in your BDSM play

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Kinky Weekender: The best BDSM Dungeons in London

Looking for the best BDSM Dungeons in London? Look no further! London, the cosmopolitan capital of England, is a city that offers so much to …

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bratty submissive

Bratty Submissives: Everything you need to know about being one and being with one

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sub-mode

Sub Mode Activated: Sub Frenzy, Sub Space & Sub Drop Explained

How to navigate different stages in your submissive journey BDSM relationships involve a power dynamic between a dominant and a submissive partner. As such, submissives …

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Navigating kink with chronic pain

Hurts so good: Navigating kink with chronic pain

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solo submission

Solo Submission: Tips for establishing your kinky identity when single

Being single and submissive can be a frustrating experience, especially when it comes to expressing your submissive identity. It is sometimes challenging to find a …

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How to vet a Dominant

How to vet a dominant

5 top tips for connecting with new and potential Dominants  There’s nothing more exciting than meeting a potential Dominant, but how do you know if …

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5 Ways to Reward Your Submissive

5 Ways to Reward your Submissive

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What is Age Play?

What is Age Play?

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A Guide to Sensual Dominance

A Guide to Sensual Dominance

5 Ways to be more Dominant without being sadistic When most people think of Dom and Sub relationships they think, of pain, obedience, and total …

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The best kinky networking sites

The best kinky networking sites

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Sex Party Etiquette

Playing well with others: A guide to sex party etiquette

Top tips for navigating your first play, kink, or fetish party Ok, I’m ready! If you’re ready to get out there and mingle with some …

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A Quick Guide to Consent

A Quick Guide to Consent

What is consent, why it’s important and how to practice it Consent may seem like a simple concept, but it can look and feel different …

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A Guide to Dom/sub contracts

A Guide to Dom/sub Contracting

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5 ways to play with a masochist

5 ways to play with a Masochist

Have you ever wondered why pain hurts so good? A masochist is defined as someone who derives pleasure, often sexual gratification, from experiencing pain or …

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3 signs you've hit a plateau on your kink journey

5 signs you’ve hit a plateau on your kink journey

There comes a time in any journey where we feel like we’ve slowed down, or that we’re stuck altogether, and the same goes for kink. …

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What type of Dominant style suits you best?

What Dominant style suits you best?

When it comes to BDSM, one of the biggest misconceptions is that it’s all about pain, humiliation and degradation. But this couldn’t be further from …

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The other D in BDSM

The other ‘D’ in BDSM: Introducing Discipline and Rules to your D/s dynamic

Discipline and rules are a common practice for those in a Dominant/submissive dynamic, but not everyone enjoys the discipline aspect of BDSM. If you’re looking …

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BDSM & Altered States: What is dissociation and how to stay grounded during play

BDSM & altered states: what is dissociation and how to stay grounded

What is dissociation in BDSM? Some believe it’s the same as subspace or topspace, some believe it’s completely different. In this article, I talk you …

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BDSM punishments: tips, tricks and ideas for punishing your sub

BDSM Punishments: Tips, tricks and ideas for punishing your sub

BDSM Punishments are an important part of a Dom/sub dynamic, they are an effective way to whip your submissive into shape (sometimes quite literally) when …

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An introduction to anal play

An introduction to anal play

Butt stuff – you either love it or fear it greatly until you try it. One of the most common differences of opinion I see …

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BDSM debunked: 5 misconceptions about BDSM relationships

BDSM Debunked: 5 misconceptions about BDSM relationships

Thought BDSM was all about whips and chains, rough sex, and hidden trauma? Think again. On behalf of all the kinksters out there, here are …

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consensual non consent

Consensual non-consent: What is ‘rape play’ and how to do it safely

Have you ever had a fantasy about sex with a stranger? How about sex you didn’t consent to? Well, you’re not alone. In this blog, …

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Bondage for beginners

Bondage for beginners: An introduction to physical and psychological bondage play

Bondage is one of the most common forms of power play and can be used as part of a BDSM scene, or in any sexual …

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3 reasons to introduce bdsm

3 Reasons to introduce BDSM into your relationship

BDSM often gets misunderstood as something extreme that should be reserved for the dark corners of the internet, or rich businessmen (here’s looking at you, …

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Imposter syndrome and kink shaming in BDSM

Imposter Syndrome and kink-shaming in BDSM

In a world dominated by social media, we have grown ever-so hard on ourselves, constantly comparing our journeys and achievements to others, wondering if we …

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Edging and orgasm control

Edging and orgasm control: How to maximise pleasure through deferred gratification

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The best vibrators for solo sex

Good vibes, good life: the best vibrators for solo sex

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A guide to aftercare

A guide to aftercare

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The art of taking sexy selfies

The art of taking sexy selfies

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Online dating when you're kinky

Online dating when you’re kinky

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Long-distance BDSM: tips for keeping the kink alive

Long-distance BDSM: tips for keeping the kink alive

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Does being submissive make me a bad feminist?

Does being a submissive make you a bad feminist?

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What is subspace and how do I get there?

What is subspace and how do I get there?

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resourceful impact play

Resourceful impact play

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BDSM 101: A beginner's guide

BDSM 101: A beginners guide

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