SITC’s round-up of the best tools for spanking
If you’ve wanted to progress your play past restraints and blindfolds, spanking is often the next step and can heighten the kinkiness of a play session whilst providing some role-playing opportunities. Spanking is more technically known as ‘impact play’ and can incorporate a whole lot more than some handmarks on your partners behind as I explain below.
Impact play is a form of BDSM that involves striking the body with various tools, such as paddles, floggers, and whips. It can be a thrilling and intense experience, but it’s important to approach it safely, especially if you’re a beginner. Bondara is a great place to shop for impact play toys, with a range of options to suit different levels of experience and preferences. Here are five of what I think are the best impact play tools for beginners:
SITC Top 5
Luxe Rose Gold Real Leather Flogger – 17.5 Inch
A flogger is a classic impact play tool that can deliver a range of sensations, from gentle teasing to more intense stings. This flogger from Bondara features soft leather tails that are gentle on the skin, making it perfect for those who are new to impact play. The short handle also gives you good control, which is important when you’re starting out. Floggers are a great tool for your play sessions because of their versatility. Play with the mix of teasing the tips of the flogger gently across your partner’s body before delivering a quick flick of the wrist and raising the tension in both of you.
Short Leather Spanking Crop – 12 Inch
A spanking crop takes things to the next level and really allows a little more weight behind the spanks if your partner is looking for that. Always start gently as just a small movement with these can generate quite a sting, so work up and watch the reactions of your partner. The crop makes a real swooshing sound when passed through the air and coupled with a blindfold can heighten the sensations. Add this toy to some roleplaying for a more immersive experience. The 12-inch version is perfect for those weekends away.
If you prefer a paddle with a firmer texture, this silicone paddle from Bondara might be more your style. The surface has both textured and patterned sides for added sensations. Being slightly flexible helps you to give those extra powerful slaps when needed. It’s also waterproof, making it easy to clean after use.
If you’re looking for a more intense paddle then this studded version is for you. The studs on this paddle will leave an extra sting and long-lasting marks if you’re looking for impact play with a visual element. It’s important to go easy with this one to start with and work up to leaving marks, with each impact the blood will rise to the surface increasing sensation. BDSM is all about the suspense and buildup, the glint of these silver studs will heighten anticipation and help to build that kinky experience.
A twist on the classic ‘spanker’, this beautiful-looking paddle is light, flickable, and gives a satisfying noise with each strike. Used softly, the noise stays but the pain is low so this is a great tool for inducing that suspense to your play without the marks. Give it a little more though and you’ll have your submissive squirming with a mix of pleasure and pain. Reliable, cheap, and good-looking.
Summary & Things to Remember:
When it comes to impact play, it’s important to start slowly and communicate with your partner throughout the session. Use a safeword if you need to pause or stop play, and always start with a warm-up to prepare the body for impact. Aftercare is also crucial, as impact play can be physically and emotionally intense. Make sure to check in with your partner afterward, provide them with water and a blanket, and offer reassurance and cuddles as needed.
Remember, you don’t always need to invest in toys for impact play. Everyday objects like belts, wooden spoons, rulers, and hairbrushes can also be used for impact play. Check out this article for more inspiration on resourceful impact play.
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