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resourceful impact play

Resourceful impact play

Not yet added to your toy box? No problem. Here I show you how to practice impact play both safely, and imaginatively – no toys necessary!

If you’re new to BDSM, one of the first routes to go down is impact play. Punishment, particularly spanking, is one of the most common BDSM practices and is suitable for all levels of experience. As I always say, you really don’t need lots of fancy equipment in order to practice BDSM, not even when it comes to impact play. Some of the best impact play tools are things you already own, and being imaginative is all part of the fun of being a resourceful Dominant, so here’s a few tips if your submissive starts acting up and you haven’t got a crop or paddle in the vicinity.

resourceful impact play

Get hands on!

Doms, your most trusted tool is always at hand (literally, I’m talking about your actual hand). This may seem pretty obvious, but you can’t beat a good old-fashioned spanking at the hand of your Mistress/Master. While some may fob this form of impact play off as a ‘soft’ punishment, I say they’re just not doing it right. I for one have felt the impact of many a hand, and let me tell you, don’t underestimate the power behind it. It’s actually a lot more diverse than plenty of the fancier impact play tools, too.

The beauty of a bare-handed spank is that you have total control over the pressure and power of each spank. Positioning is key when it comes to delivering the right kind of spank. A closed cup hand will undoubtedly deliver a much more powerful impact, both in sound and in terms of marks on the skin, whereas a flat-handed spank delivers more of a lingering sting, as does a swiping motion across the skin. And there’s nothing more satisfying than a perfectly formed red handprint on your sub’s bare ass. Punishment at it’s finest.

resourceful impact play

Feeling saucy!

If you’re looking to spice things up with your submissive, then head to the kitchen for an alternative to the paddle, and pick up a wooden spoon! Simple, yet incredibly effective. In fact, in the past, I have bought a wooden spoon solely for the purpose of impact play, and it had a cute little heart cut out on it leaving pretty marks on my butt – what more could you want.

The wooden spoon creates an impact similar to that of any wooden paddle – a nice thud followed by an intense sting. If you’ve never used any wooden toys before, take it slow and build up the impact slowly (and Doms, always remember to test the impact on yourself first so you know the force of it). Keep to the cheeks but if you’re feeling particularly sadistic you can move to the backs of the thighs to really make your submissive squirm.

I once had a Dominant who decided to spank me in the middle of the kitchen, not just with our wooden spoon, but the hot, dirty wooden spoon that he had been using to stir the dinner with – saucy! If you like getting messy then this form of impact play was pretty fun, just be careful with the temperature of the spoon (no boiling water) and stick to fleshy areas such as the butt cheeks.

resourceful impact play

Make their hair stand on end

Another common household item, particularly favoured by Daddy Doms, is the hairbrush. Resembling a paddle, this is a great item to use on your submissive when they’re being bratty! A paddle brush has a wide surface area and you can get a good grip on it to really build up the blows.

Spanking with the bristle side can be quite painful and probably not as satisfying a blow as the flat side, which will leave a your sub’s ass a nice glowing shade of rouge. The bigger the brush the better the bruise!

Take off your belt

Belts are so sexy. Just watching my Dominant remove their belt and wrap it around their hand is enough to make me weak at the knees. But be warned, the belt isn’t for the faint hearted and you need to have a good technique for a successful belt spanking. Leather and pleather belts hurt a lot more and leave instantaneous red welts. These slowly change to bruises that shift from deep purples to greens and yellows. The belt also makes a brilliant whipping sound which is something I personally find both terrifying and incredibly hot during impact play.

If you’ve not used the belt before, try used softer material belts to start with, and in all cases, I would avoid spanking with the buckle end of the belt, unless you really want to, but that will hurt, A LOT. This is one of the most popular impact play tools, and the best part is if you’re a male Dom, you’ve probably almost always got one to hand, wherever you go. Perfect for punishments anywhere, anytime. Belts are also great tools for restraint.

To learn more about impact play, keep an eye out for my next workshops and events!

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