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Top tips for navigating your first play, kink, or fetish party Ok, I’m ready! If you’re ready to get out there and mingle with some like-minded people you’ve probably found yourself wondering what the difference is between a play, kink, or fetish party. There is a multitude of different events organised for kinksters but it […]

What is consent, why it’s important and how to practice it Consent may seem like a simple concept, but it can look and feel different for everyone. In the world of BDSM and Kink, Consent is one of the core foundations on which a successful dynamic, relationship or experience is built upon. So, if you’re

Have you ever wondered why pain hurts so good? A masochist is defined as someone who derives pleasure, often sexual gratification, from experiencing pain or humiliation. In contrast to that, a person who derives pleasure from inflicting pain is known as a sadist. This is where the commonly known term S&M comes from. For masochists,

There comes a time in any journey where we feel like we’ve slowed down, or that we’re stuck altogether, and the same goes for kink. If you feel as though you’ve not been enjoying your BDSM experiences as much lately, or that you don’t feel as inclined to play around with kink in your sex

When it comes to BDSM, one of the biggest misconceptions is that it’s all about pain, humiliation and degradation. But this couldn’t be further from the truth. The beauty of the kink world is that there is room for everyone, so while being a hardcore sadist is a kink for many people, you don’t have

Discipline and rules are a common practice for those in a Dominant/submissive dynamic, but not everyone enjoys the discipline aspect of BDSM. If you’re looking to take your BDSM practices to the next level, for example from spontaneous kinky sex to a more committed power exchange dynamic, then introducing some rules can help both you

What is dissociation in BDSM? Some believe it’s the same as subspace or topspace, some believe it’s completely different. In this article, I talk you through the definitions and provide a few tips on how to stay grounded during play. Not all BDSM dynamics are created equal – some involve romance, and some don’t. But

Butt stuff – you either love it or fear it greatly until you try it. One of the most common differences of opinion I see with the couples I work with on BDSM negotiation is anal play! There really seems to be a stark contrast in eagerness to experiment with anal play. For many Dominants,

Thought BDSM was all about whips and chains, rough sex, and hidden trauma? Think again. On behalf of all the kinksters out there, here are five misconceptions about BDSM relationships, debunked! Dominant & Submissive relationships can get a bad rep outside of the BDSM community. The portrayal of BDSM in the mainstream media is often